Choosing Sympathy Flowers: A Gentle Guide
What to send, where to send it and what to write on the card when you want to offer comfort.
When someone is grieving, flowers are a quiet way to show you care. This guide helps you choose the right arrangement and message.
For the funeral service
Standing sprays, wreaths and casket arrangements are designed to be displayed at the service. They are usually sent by close family, friends, colleagues or organizations directly to the funeral home or place of worship. Include the service date and time in the delivery details so the florist can deliver ahead of it.
For the family’s home
A vase arrangement or basket sent to the family’s home is a personal gesture that can be sent in the days or weeks after a loss. Softer, simpler designs feel comforting in a home setting.
Traditional sympathy flowers
- Lilies are among the most traditional funeral flowers and symbolize peace.
- White roses express reverence and remembrance.
- Chrysanthemums are a common sympathy flower in many traditions.
- Blue and white arrangements feel calm and peaceful.
Consider faith and culture
Customs differ between faiths and cultures, and in some traditions flowers are not customary. If you are unsure, a short message to the family or a donation in the person’s memory is always appropriate.
What to write on the card
- “With deepest sympathy. We are thinking of you.”
- “In loving memory of a wonderful person.”
- “Holding you close in our thoughts during this difficult time.”
A simple, sincere message is always enough.
